Small Congregation: "Bob always does that."

In small congregations I have known, there's a constant problem with understaffing.  Partly, it's because there are not very many people.  And partly it's because "Bob always does that."

For sure, there are lots of jobs and not many people.  But if you look around, some of the people are not finding ways to help, and others are doing more than is good for them.  There's Bob...  every time there's a blank space on the signup sheet, Bob feels impelled to put his name in.  Sometimes he can't get to all of it, but at least he tries.  Bob's friends need to help him hold back!

When Bob's name is on the list to do something, others believe there is no need for them to sign up. His helpful practice makes it harder for those who are less involved to find ways to help.  Rather than just put his name down, he could call some people and find out if they could do it.  Or better yet, someone else who is better connected with newer folks could do it.

There are jobs around the congregation that are always Bob's responsibility.  He puts up the Solsitice/Christmas tree (does he also complain when no one else takes it down?).  He makes sure there are paper towels in the bathrooms and toilet paper in all the bathroom stalls on Sunday morning. He is the one who makes the coffee.  On a Sunday when Bob is out of town, people wonder why there is no coffee and puzzle over the condition of the restrooms.  Bob is very helpful, and yet something is not quite right about it.  Again, Bob's friends need to help him make room for others.

Of course, there's also Jane, who always washes up after social hour and always manages the kitchen during potluck suppers/brunches/luncheons. She has certain ways of doing these things and those who have been around for awhile know how to help her.  Others?  It's not easy or fun.

When people in congregations do things alone, the congregation misses out on a chance to build community.  It's a basic idea in community organizing that you should never do anything alone.  Two things happen  that are not so helpful.  First, no one else knows how to do it, or even that it is being done.  When Bob or Jane is away or sick, it's an emergency.  Second, when it's time for someone else to take over, it's very hard. Even the Holiday Tree needs a succession plan, and having others involved is a good way to set one up informally. But mainly, when you're working alone, you are not engaging with others, getting to know them, feeling you are part of the same enterprise.  Being together is actually an important part of having a congregation in the first place, right?

There are other jobs that Bobs and Janes do... it varies from congregation to congregation. Established people in small congregations can help each other find ways to avoid getting locked into certain roles.  It's good to know the Holiday tree will go up, and it's good to know someone is making sure there are napkins for the potluck, so it's a balancing act.  Being dependable and helpful is good; getting locked in to a certain role that you do by yourself, not so much.

Let us find ways to share our roles in the congregation, even when the congregation is small.

Volunteer with an unknown congregation...working alone!